Thursday, November 16, 2017

Overcoming Negativity


Hello,
With the weather taking over many of our thoughts and moods, it can be hard not to fall "victim" to negativity. This is a blog to help those who may be trying to avoid/ may be dealing with depression, low self-esteem, or low self-confidence.
There have many times in life when depression has “knocked on my door”. I never always recognized it, or even knew it was “knocking”. And I guess I never really thought about it much before doing it...
I share this in hopes that this may help anyone in need. Quoting myself here from a comment made on Facebook.
‘When I fell into depression before, I found art/ experimentation explorations to be my "therapy". I explored in multiple arts and crafts, and community activities that included:
~ I joined some community committees, and helped host their events (see it in my volunteer info. on my profile).
~ Painting with acrylics: mostly on canvas of various sizes, but also various objects. Some pre-made, and some I made myself with plaster of Paris (my Death by Series #1).
~ I created a resource, and hosted some events for others to join in the fun (my Halloween calendar, a.k.a. ACCG, that I did for 5 years). I created the whole thing myself including charts and pictures. It was only the printing I couldn't do without help (took it to a printer).
~ I also hosted some mini-events during others events, to help promote their events and add some extra fun. (Ex. International Monsters Day/ Pose-able Dead Dolls).
~ I made "splash pages" of all the various things I did, and what I helped out with/ supported. OUTCOME:
~ All of this contributed to me not feeling like I was a useless member of society in our community. 
~ It enabled me to explore my creative/ design-minded-self more.
~ It helped me to grow positively in multiple ways, and show others some things I am capable of. I call them "Favourite Freedom Forms (F3s)".
Dancing is another one of these forms for me. But it is something that I have always done, enjoyed, and won't quit doing. It can also serve as a great way to release some negative energies.’

Life can be quite the "Le Challenge" at times, and we may not always be up for it. If you are feeling the “cold crushing hand” of depression creeping up/ involving you, please keep this in mind.
Don’t give up! With a positive mindset and the right opportunities, you can find your way out of many/ any negative "funk". Sometimes those opportunities are right in front of us, we may just need to change our perspectives or receive that gentle nudge that family/ friends can provide.
Best wishes and positive vibes sent... (^&^)
Until next time,
Take Care & Safe Travels,
Sincerely,
Chris S./ C.E.S. (^&~)
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Wednesday, September 20, 2017

The Magical Dating Realm

(~*~)
Hello out there,
This is inspired by a friend's conversation on FB.
When it comes to dating, it's never easy finding "the right one".
The first thing we should always look at here is, some questions to think about before we pursue/ look for "the right one".
Do we think of it as an overall thing?
Is it just "the right one", or "Mr./ Ms. right", or the one that suits us best?
What do we consider as factors of being "the right one"?
Do we think of what we would like to find in the other potential companion/ mate?
Do we know what we are "looking for", or why?
Are we looking because we are lonely, for financial reasons, or because we truly want to have that companion to be with for the rest of our lives/ marry?
I am sure there are more questions here, but they would probably be specific to each individual.

Now to continue with some theory...
I shared this part in a comment, and it inspired me to share it here.
Just throwing these thoughts out there...
Hell level 1: Comes before we die, and is usually unknowingly/ unwillingly done by us.
Hell level 2: Online dating for the single/ lonely.
Hell level 3: To some this is kids/ an addiction problem (once acknowledged as a problem or not).
Hell level 4: To some... FB/ any other "social media". The drama never seems to end/ they seem to attract it.
Hell level 5: Probably after we do actually die. This would probably include all the things we disliked/ hated/ "personal tortures" while we were living.
The rest would be down there.
So, why live in Hell? STOP the online dating!
Instead:
> try going to events instead and meeting people while there...
> Like Dale suggested, try going to a bookstore/ library...
> Try other public places like pools, billiards, cafe's, etc...
> Maybe a friend/ (dare I say) a family member may know someone that would totally suit you. They may not know off the top of their head, but you never know who they know. Try attending friend's parties...
We tend to find people better when we meet in person... 
Just remember to keep an open mind & heart, not blind ones.
Seriously, I was introduced to my boyfriend currently (that yes, I do plan on moving in and marrying) through a mutual friend while at CLUB ABSTRACT one night, then we ran into each other in line for their closing night. From there we started chatting here on FB via messages, and after I got to know him better I invited him over for a movie. 
I hope this helps... (^&^)
Until next time...
Take care & Safe travels!
Chris S./ C.E.S.

Saturday, May 13, 2017

Exercise Me 1

(~*~)
Hello,
I have noticed in many (including myself) that as we (the general public) get older we tend to become lazier, or want to. Life can get very busy, and can be a distraction at times with many things. One of these things is not noticing that we/ I in particular here has gained weight, and fallen into the "fatter/ less fit than I want to be" zone. Getting fit/ back in shape isn't always easy/ easy to stay on track (pun intended), and we don't always want to. Myself, I have Arthritis, so this is good for me and I need to do it all year - hopefully I will.
NOTE: This is the first of this blog for me, and as I go I will create more - thinking monthly/ bi-monthly.
With that said, I want to share the following:
1. For my friends whom have noticed and not mentioned it, or thankfully haven't noticed, I thank you.
2. For any that may need some inspiration/ motivation to get exercising/ stay exercising, I am here to try and help.
INSPIRATION:
In the last month or so I have been exercising mostly at home, and I have shed 5 lbs. YAY!! (^&^)

Today I am sharing my exercise routines and non-routines, that have occurred over the last month or so.
NOTES:
~ Some exercises I do are either at a "regular" pace, a "slow motion" pace, or both - depending on the exercise being done or the time I may have to do it in (if I am limited with time).
~ I don't always get to exercise at the same time, or always do it the same way - variety makes it more interesting, or even at home (depends on the day/ errands ran).
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MOTIVATION:
Here we go!
(~*~)
File name: "Track me"
(~*~)
Officially starting to track my exercising Fri.042117

WHEN, WHAT, & Possible with WHOM
=> LEARNING
> Thur.042017 - "Max Workouts", & other videos (7 - 10pm).
NOTE: 
"Max Workouts" is like many others trying to sell you a service/ product. I just happened to come across it during research, and check it out. I am not trying to advertise/ promote it here.
> Fri.042117 – multiple aerobic videos observed with my friend Hope. (2 - 5pm)
> Tues.050217 – Reacquainted myself with the "Core" series video (leg workout)
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~ Thur.041317 – by myself (1:30pm – 10 mins)
Starting easy...
> 10 Sits ups
> Jogging on spot - 200 count, 
> 10 Toe-touching - diagonally, 
> 5 Off the side of my bed push ups.
** Intend to add feet balancing, lunges, lying Vs, & more body twists.
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~ Tues.041817 - by myself (3:10pm – 20mins)
> 5 Lying Vs
> 15 Sit ups, 
> 20 Butt lifts - 10 count (minimum) each time.
NOTES: 
~ "Lying Vs": Laying on my back, with both legs and arms straight and stretched out as far as they can (arms above my head). I then bring both upper and lower body portions together into a V shape, much like a sit up. I have done this at a "regular" pace, as well as a "slow motion" pace. Of course the slow motion works the muscles more, as it takes longer to get to the "V" shape.
~ Butt lifts: Clenching the buttocks while standing, laying down, or while walking works great. 
BONUS: Sometimes during walking, I also tighten up my stomach muscles - this too can help with my abs, and I try to remember to do so as often as I can while "out and about".
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~ Thur.042017 – by myself (1:30pm – 10 mins)
> 15 Sits ups,
> Jogging on spot - 300 count,
> 10 Toe-touching - diagonally,
> 5 Off the side of my bed push ups.
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~ Fri.042117 = Exercise – W/ Hope (2pm – 20 mins)
YouTube Video - aerobics: 
> Arm work w/ and without weights (1 lb each)
> Jogging on spot, 
> Football-style bum shake, 
> etc...
Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XTH5saFBDqA
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~ Sun.042317 = Exercise by myself (at boyfriend's; 9pm – 20 mins)
> Jogging on the spot - 200 count (a bit tired today).
> 10 Sit ups
> 20 Lying Vs
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~ Tues.042517 = Exercise by myself (2 – 2:32pm)
> 1 wall squat – 10 sec. Count at 4 heights along the wall with weighted arms out front,
> Jogging on the spot with circular weighted arms (1 lb each) motions – 300 count,
> 10 lunges – 10 sec. Count with weighted arms front & back, sat for 2 min. Break for file update. (2:11pm)
> Arm Lifts with Reflex band - 10 sets in 4 directions (band looks like a skipping rope with wide handles)
> Jumping jacks – 10 sets of 10 with weighted arms to the sides/ jack and a knee lift (count as needed)/ side between jacks, and water break (2:20pm).
> Duo-bicycles: 10 sets of 10 bicycle with legs & opposite weighted arms (1 lb each).
> Too tired for now... (2:32pm)
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~ Thur.042717 – by myself (6:30pm – 10 mins)
> Jogging on the spot - 300 count,
> 50 Jumping jacks, 
> 5 Off the side of my bed push ups.
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~ Sun.043017 – W/ Z (3:05 – 4:25pm)
> Walked home from 900 Guelph St., Kitchener
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~ Tues.050217
Home resource: "CORE Rhythms Dance Exercise Program - Body Sculpting Collection"
"Lower Body Sculpt" video (12 – 12:30pm)
> 10 lunges – 10 count each leg
> 10 squats – 5 count
> 10 calf raises – 10 count
> 10 count each for legs – side swings, then back swings, then balance to the side & back.
NOTES: 
~ This "collection" includes: "Lower Body Sculpt", "Latin Cardio Jam", & "Secret To Sexy Abs", "Full Workout", "Quick Workout", "Latin Dance Made Easy", and "Kick Start". 
~ I do intend to do more of this later. 
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~ Thur.050417 (4pm – 10mins.)
> Duo-bicycles: 10 slow motion sets of 10 - bicycle with legs & opposite weighted arms (1 lb each).
> 5 groups of 10 slow motion sit ups
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~ Mon.050817
> Walked to bus from home, to dentist from downtown terminal. (10:30 - 15mins), to pharmacy (Highland & West) from Homewood & Queen, to home from pharmacy (1 – 15mins).
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~ Tues.050917
LEGS (10 – 10:30am)
> Jogging on the spot with arms moving too – 300 count
> Balancing: one foot against other leg – 5 count each – 2 times, 10 count each – once.
> 50 jumping jacks
> 50 squats with arms lifted to center of throat height.
> Across body elbow to lifted knee – 50 each side.
> Lunges - 5 groups of 10 each side.
> Across body toe touching – 10 each side.
> 10 push ups off the side of my bed.
ABS (10:30 – 11am)
> Duo-bicycles: 40 bicycle with legs & opposite weighted arms (1 lb each).
> 10 Lying Vs – 10 count hold each.
> 100 sit ups – 50 normal paced, 50 slow motion paced.
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~ Wed.051017
> Walked from boyfriend's to corner of Lackner & Fairway (missed the bus by 3 mins walk from plaza driveway to stop), then up Fairway to River (1/2 hour). Stopped for food in food court, then took bus downtown. Walked home from downtown terminal (20 mins). => 50 mins of walking.
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~ Thur.051117
School Field Trip Day!
> Walked from home through park to downtown KPL (40 mins), then walked with Z's class to Victoria Park (rested for 15 mins) and then walked home.
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~ Fri.051217
> Walked to Pita Factory w/ my boys & Hope for dinner (reward for downsizing for 5 hours today!), and then back after. (7pm - 20? mins each way)

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~ Mon.051517
> Walked to bus (10 mins), walked to Service Canada (Frederick & King = 5 mins), shopping in the mall (1hr?), walked to & shopped at Best Buy & Beat Goes On (2hrs, 30mins?), walked back to mall for bus (10mins?), walked home from bus stop (5mins) = 4 hrs?
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~ Wed.051717
Trip to KPL downtown - Z's book on hold (4 – 7pm)
> Waked to KPL from home, walked to Dollarama, and walked home.
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~ Thur.051817 (12:35 – 1:35pm, & 3:30 - 4pm)
> Walked from home to the bus stop (10 mins), walked from downtown bus terminal to dentist and back (15mins), walked from Tim Hortons (bus stop) on Highland to run errands, then home (35mins). = 1hr of walking.
> 20 Lying Vs
> 20 Lying diagonal crunches each side.
> 20 Lying leg lifts each side – lifted straight-legged from the floor to as far to my chest as possible.
> 50 Diagonal elbow to lifted knee (standing crunches) – each side.
> 50 Sit ups – normal paced.
> Duo-bicycles: 40 bicycle with legs & opposite weighted arms (1 lb each).
> Balancing: one foot against other leg – 5 count each – 2 times, 10 count each – once.
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~ Wed.052417 (11 – 11:30am)
Home resource: "CORE Rhythms Dance Exercise Program - Body Sculpting Collection"
"Secret To Sexy Abs"
> Crunching: diagonal, straight, rotate; rhythm moves, normal/ slow motion & faster tempos...
& Keep Your Mind on Your Abs! (^&~)
(~*~)
Until next time...
Take Care & Safe Travels!
(~*~)
P.S.
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Thursday, April 27, 2017

Diary of an Arthritic 1

=> D.o.A1 – Growing Pains
Hello,
First I feel the need to say... I do not share this to "re-open old wounds", make anyone feel bad/ sorry for me, or any other negatives. This is simply a blog for the inspiration of others.
My inspirations for this blog:
> My continual efforts to help/ support those who may be in need of inspirations in many ways.
(~*~)
Physical Difficulties
My childhood was rough. When I was 13 months old, doctors discovered that I had JRA (Junior Rheumatoid Arthritis - Stills), so I was in and out of hospitals since it was discovered. I was told that at the age of 2 years my leg was broken over a simple clumsy fall, and I think this was my first stay in a hospital overnight that I vaguely remember. I am not sure if I was kept for observations when I was younger though. After that I was in and out for check ups that involved a minimum of my doctor, and his assistant or a learning student. I remember some times I felt like a lab experiment, as the table I was lying on was completely surrounded by medical staff/ students. Hospital check ups continued into my teen years, until finally I didn't have to go so much as my arthritis seemed to be in remission around 15 years old.
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Surgeries
In my adult life, I have now seen an "acetabulor osteotemy" (I call it a hip extension with large metal screws), both hips replaced (also metal), and a shin plate (also metal) from a broken leg. All this happened in an 11 year span, and with all these metal parts I often wish they were bionic – why not be like the "Bionic Woman"?
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Social Difficulties
I had challenges with walking "normal" due to my JRA, so naturally I was avoided/ made fun of by others in grade school. I knew this was to be "the norm" for my life at school, but I didn't realize it was also going on at home in different ways. When my sister started to take on an "I'm better than you" attitude that she felt free to say often/ treat me badly; while my mom just stood by and watched, as if a school kid watching a fight on the playground. My mom seemed to show favourtism towards my younger sister for many years, and I got blamed for things I didn't even know about/ do – "normal" for most families some may say... but I think it could have been due to my mom's possible feeling of burden/ hassle from raising me with such an issue/ problem, and my younger sister's attitudes did not help. My mom never seemed to support me much outside my JRA.
I never really realized that my mom and sister were like this still until a more recent visit. Sad but true. So I prefer to keep my distance, as I see these as "toxic" behaviours. I rarely talk to either of them now, and honestly it doesn't bother me. What does bother me is that they still choose to behave in such ways towards me. I am forgiving not forgetting, and I hope it stops before any of us die.
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Change is good!
Out of all this, came my change of perspective as I decided to ignore the rudenesses/ ignorances of others, and teach myself how to find my inner strength to become the survivor I needed to be. I think I was about 13 years old then, because by 15 years old I started trying to move out. I didn't succeed until 2 years later, and I am thankful that I have never had to live there again.
And despite the fact that these events can be depressing to think about, I find positivity and comfort in knowing that I have gotten past them – at least for now.
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HOW DID I DO IT?
  1. Seeing the truth of situations, and realizing when there are "toxic" behaviours/ relationships. Then distancing myself from them – mentally & physically. Mentally is harder.
  2. No longer looking for/ needing comfort, support, validation, or closure.
  3. Self-Awareness & Developments - Doing "my own thing(s)", and finding the values of me.
  4. Continual Self-Interests based studies for life and career – ongoing life-long learner.
  5. Reaching out to my community supports (friends included).
  6. Remaining POSITIVE through it all – not always easy, but I try.
  7. Sharing all this for those who may need some inspiration.

If you have read this far down, thank you.
Feel free to leave a comment anywhere I may share this, and to share this with anyone whom may need it.
Until next time...
Take Care & Safe Travels!
Sincerely,
Chris E. S./ C.E.S. (042717635PMishC.E.S.)